‘Abusive relationships are complicated…’

Its strange to think that when I was growing up I actually had a ‘closer’ relationship to my step-father, than my mother.  I feel the need to explain why.  You see, in between the abusive episodes, he acted relatively ‘normal’ and could be funny, caring and protective.   This was what was so upsetting for […]


Growing up, I never really trusted people enough for them to become my friends. And then I had children and was kind of ‘forced’ into letting people in a little more; after all, I wanted my children to have friends, even if I didn’t. So…one day in the school playground, I took the brave step […]

‘You fucking whore…’

It still amazes me how much of an impact ‘words’ can have on us.  Words spoken cannot only hurt our feelings,  they can go on to have a major influence on future decisions we make and future actions we take. At around thirteen years of age, my mother and I were having an argument.  It […]